Falling Through the Cracks, or Straying Sheep?

white and black animal standing on green grass

“It’s an all-too-common phenomenon in churches. A church member stops showing up on Sunday mornings. A few weeks pass, and then a few months, before someone notices.”

This past November, on our annual elders retreat, the elders of White Fields Community Church read Jeremie Rinne’s book Church Elders, which is part of the 9 Marks series. Jeremy brings up an interesting point:

‘People in my congregation refer to this phenomenon as “falling through the cracks.” They say things like: “Have you seen Sally around church lately? I hope she didn’t fall through the cracks.”

What if, instead of “falling through the cracks,” we use a different image: “straying from the flock.” That picture seems more fitting for at least two reasons. First, “straying” implies that a disconnected church member bears a personal responsibility to stay involved with the congregation. Sheep don’t ordinarily leave a flock by inadvertently plummeting into a void. They wander away over time through a series of choices.

Second, the image of straying sheep also suggests that someone should keep watch over the flock and take action when a sheep begins to meander away. Yes, each member has a personal responsibility not to roam, but all church members have a duty to watch out for one another. However, one group in particular has an obligation to be on the lookout for straying sheep: the elders.

Elders watch to make sure that no “wolves” infiltrate their congregations with false teaching. But elders also keep watch for unwanted movement in the other direction: members straying away from the flock and from the Lord. This is part of basic shepherding work. Shepherds feed the sheep, guard them from predators, and keep track of them.’

He goes on to point out something interesting from Ezekiel:

‘Ezekiel prophesied against Israel’s leaders by accusing them of negligent shepherding: “Woe to the shepherds of Israel, who have been feeding themselves! Shouldn’t the shepherds feed their flock?” (Ezek. 34:2). And what was one of the ways they failed to shepherd? “You have not . . . brought back the strays, or sought the lost” (v. 4). As a result, “My flock went astray on all the mountains and every high hill. They were scattered over the whole face of the earth, and there was no one searching or seeking for them” (v. 6).’

Jesus, in contrast, is the “good shepherd” who leaves the 99 to pursue the one wayward sheep, something which is indeed “reckless” from a business perspective (and this is exactly what the lyrics of Cory Ashbury’s song “Reckless Love” come from).

The difficult balance from a church leader’s perspective is how to be a good shepherd under Jesus, and being overbearing. May God give us wisdom and grace as we seek to do His work!

7 thoughts on “Falling Through the Cracks, or Straying Sheep?

  1. When a person goes seeking they look for a place of kindness and inclusion. That is what the church, as the body of Christ should offer. Often instead one finds an environment much like high school; the in crowd and everyone .
    If a person shows up, they are in need of Christ’s love and acceptance. If they stop showing up, they didn’t find it.
    We’re the body of Christ, kind and loving and inclusive. Its not just words, they are Actions!!

  2. I agree with the comment above. It is hard for some people to find a place where they feel the kindness and inclusion of the church. I have never really felt that feeling of belonging anywhere. I just assumed it is my fault. I felt myself falling through the cracks now, but I guess I am just straying.

    1. By calling us sheep, the Bible is making some astute statements about our propensities as human beings, for example: Sheep are prone to stray from the flock, but straying is the worst thing a sheep can do. They need the flock in order to survive.

      1. But you offer no solutions. I do not think anyone offers a real solution for the outsider. Eventually I will be completely outside. I tried to stay on the path but I feel myself drifting. I have questioned and tried to get back on the trail, but I just feel more alone.

      2. I do offer a solution: don’t stray from the flock.
        The tendency of people struggling with depression is to isolate, and yet every psychologist or counselor will tell you: the worst thing a person struggling with depression can do is to isolate. Who is the impetus on: the “sheep” or the “shepherd”? The answer, as in the quote in the post above, is: both.

      3. It is a Catch-22. Isolation comes when you one does not trust the people around them. They feel they are truly alone in the world.

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