Guest Post: Why I Miss Queen Elizabeth II – by Rosemary Cady

September 8, 2023 marks one year since the death of Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth. The late Queen Elizabeth II was remarkable in many ways. She reigned for seventy long years as the sovereign of the United Kingdom and Commonwealth. One of the most well-known people in the world, Queen Elizabeth was popular because of her consistency and the way she fulfilled her role as a leader. What intrigued me about her, is the way she led. Elizabeth showed over her long reign, through her quiet and deliberate leadership, that she considered herself a servant to her people.

In a speech made on her 21st birthday, the Queen (then Princess Elizabeth) pledged her commitment to duty in these memorable words, “I declare before you all that my whole life, whether it be long or short, shall be devoted to your service.” She held true to that pledge over her seventy-year reign, which began when she was just 26 years old. Though she could not know what the future held, she dedicated to give her life in service for her people. And that she did. Instead of spending frivolous time on herself as queen or enjoying entertainment above duty, what was known about Queen Elizabeth II was how she worked hard traveling as a diplomat and acting as Head of state, Head of the armed forces, Head of the Commonwealth, and head of the Church of England.

The Queen lived 96 years, seeing the world change, seeing the United Kingdom change, and seeing her own family change. She began her reign over a large empire which stretched across the world, but at her death, the Commonwealth was much smaller. She allowed the monarchy to modernize and be televised, and even had a Twitter account by the end of her life. She realized that she must not resist change, lest she become unrelatable to the people she served and led. She allowed the public to have access to the royal family, letting them into her life to see what she was like as a person, where she lived, and how she fulfilled her duties. With all of the change Queen Elizabeth II saw in her seventy years as sovereign, she  remained dedicated to service and true to who she was as a person. She did what was best to lead as Queen and be connected to the people.

In her family, the Queen had to navigate numerous scandals and make some difficult decisions. Of her four children, three divorced. Elizabeth decided to strip her own son of his titles due to his association with a convicted felon. Elizabeth’s deeply held Christian values were not embraced in the same way by her family members, and yet the Queen did not waver in her faith. Personally, I started paying closer attention to the Queen’s leadership at the time when she was facing these challenges. I paid attention when her home at Windsor Castle caught fire and the family ran out carrying art and heirlooms. I watched to see how the Queen would react as her grandson, Prince Harry, gave up his royal duties and moved to California.

I wanted to see each time which emotion the Queen would emote and how she would respond when Prince Harry and his wife gave public interviews about why they left royal duties and what they did not like about the royal family. To my surprise, the royal family did not respond immediately, and refused to answer questions directed at them by the media. The Queen later issued a response that was unemotional and kind, that she was “saddened” and that the family would privately discuss the accusations. In these days of outrage and arguments on social media, I was happy to see the restraint the Queen exhibited in such an emotionally-charged situation; she was not defensive or retaliatory when attacked.

In this way, Elizabeth was an example of how to conduct oneself in difficult situations. Queen Elizabeth’s quiet but strong leadership was shown in how, as a woman with cameras always on her, and with so much influence, she did not use many words. Although she held weekly audiences with the British Prime Minister, we will never know what they talked about. Her words were not disclosed by the Prime Ministers, though we can assume she had an influence over them, as her words held weight.

Quiet leadership can be profoundly powerful. Many leaders seem to exemplify the opposite of quiet leadership, and yet, the Queen’s influence was huge. She was the one people looked to for a response in times of tragedy or need. Yet it was not her words that made the greatest impact on people, but simply her presence, which conveyed strength and confidence. Her consistent, powerful presence will be missed. It requires meekness to be one of the most influential and popular people in the world, and to not say much, but keep smiling, waving, and appearing, in the midst of other duties.

The Queen had a unique perspective on her life of service, wanting to give her entire life to it, whether her life was long or short. I watched her celebrate her seventy year jubilee in amazement of her longevity in service. Elizabeth seemed to have kept her sense of humor. Despite the pomp and adoration she received, she had the humility and grace to never forget to smile, be kind, trust in God, and continue being a servant. The Queen knew that she would be in her role for a long time, and it gave her the perspective of playing the “long game.” She was committed to fulfilling her goal of a life of service. She endured challenges, family difficulty, and more, yet she continued to do what was right, knowing that those pains would eventually be in the past as she moved forward in duty.

The ability to restrain one’s tongue is addressed in Proverbs 17:9, “He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.” When there is a challenging situation in which someone has done wrong, a person who has restraint and a “long game” focus will protect the institution they lead. Retaliation or talking negatively about the person who committed the wrong is short-sighted and does not truly help the well-being of our church or relationships. These principles the Queen exemplified in her leadership of the United Kingdom are transferable to us who lead in the local church.

The Queen’s example of quiet leadership contains many qualities worth emulating. Showing up in time of need, being consistently present, and being slow to speak, are qualities which are worth employing in church leadership. What people may need most in times of tragedy man not be our words primarily, but our presence, reminding them that they are not alone, but that we are standing with them to show that they are cared for and loved. Our meek attitude can help them learn to lean on Christ as the one who cares for them and supplies all that they need.

Queen Elizabeth II was well-loved and respected as the longest-reigning British monarch. Britain changed tremendously during her seventy year reign, but we learned from her example that a leader can be faithful and continue in service while being a strength for the people by never changing focus. Her focus was to consider herself a servant to the people. Few will forget where they were when they heard of the passing of Queen Elizabeth II on September 8, 2022. She was an example in leadership for us all. As a woman in leadership in my local church, I will miss her, and I have been changed by her example.

A Biblical Discussion of Current Politics and Where Our True Citizenship Lies

My friend Nate Morris is the pastor of a great church: Mountain Life Calvary Chapel, which has campuses in Edwards and Carbondale, Colorado, serving the communities of the Vail Valley and the Roaring Fork Valley.

Recently Nate started a podcast: the New Day Podcast, which aims, in his words, “to talk about the topics which you shouldn’t talk about around the dinner table,” such as religion, race, politics, and so on.

I was honored to be a guest on his podcast; you can check out our discussion here: Special Guest: Pastor Nick Cady – A Biblical discussion of current politics and where our true citizenship lies.

In the episode, we talk about how my decade as a missionary in Hungary has affected my views on politics, as well as my concerns and hopes for the church in our current political and social situation.

Check it out the episode and leave a comment on this post with your thoughts and reactions, and make sure to subscribe to the New Day Podcast with Pastor Nate Morris!